Why You’re Not Into It Anymore: Low Libido, Marriage & Midlife |Michele Scarlet

Why You’re Not Into It Anymore: Low Libido, Marriage & Midlife

Do you still love your partner, but feel like sex is the last thing on your mind?

In episode three of Midlife, Unfiltered, Bria and Functional Diagnostic Nutrition Practitioner Michele Scarlet unpack low libido in midlife, why desire can change, and the many reasons sex can start to feel like a chore instead of a source of connection.

Low libido is not automatically a hormone problem. And it does not automatically mean your marriage is over.

For many women, desire is influenced by a whole picture: perimenopause, postpartum changes, sleep, stress, mental load, pain or dryness, body image, emotional safety, relationship dynamics, medication, and whether you feel connected to your own body.

Bria and Michele talk honestly about the difference between being desired and feeling desire yourself. They explore why women can become disconnected from sex during busy seasons of motherhood and caregiving, how to create room for intimacy without turning it into another obligation, and why pain during sex is never something you should simply push through.

They also discuss when it may be time to look more closely at hormones, vaginal health, low estrogen, low testosterone, stress, or the relationship itself.

This is not a conversation about forcing yourself to want sex. It is about getting curious, removing shame, and understanding what your body may be asking for.

In This Episode

00:00 “Am I dead inside?” Understanding low libido

00:45 Is low desire always hormonal?

03:45 Emotional safety, physical safety, and desire

05:02 Mental load, motherhood, and sex becoming another task

06:56 Partnership, resentment, and carrying everything alone

08:58 Feeling disconnected from your body after pregnancy and breastfeeding

10:24 Should couples schedule sex or schedule intimacy?

12:24 Responsive desire and reconnecting with your partner

13:17 Self-connection, pleasure, and asking better questions

14:39 When low desire can make you question your relationship

15:29 Why shame-free sexual communication matters

15:56 When hormones and health concerns may be part of the picture

17:10 Pain, dryness, and why discomfort during sex deserves support

18:20 Postpartum hormones and feeling like a stranger in your body

19:51 What has helped you reconnect with desire?

Connect with Michele Scarlet

Instagram: @michelescarlet_

Connect with Bria

Instagram: @bria_period_whisperer

Website: https://theperiodwhisperer.com

Low libido is part of perimenopause and health debt, too.

A change in desire can be one clue in a much bigger picture: hormones, sleep, stress, nervous-system support, body changes, pain, nourishment, relationship capacity, and recovery all matter.

Take Bria’s free Health Debt Quiz to explore where your body may be asking for more support right now and get a clearer, more personalized place to begin:

http://healthdebt.briatheperiodwhisperer.com/

This is not a diagnosis. It is a practical way to stop guessing and start asking better questions about your health.